6 Weeks of Wellness, CBT Week 5, Effective Listening
Hello folks, so for this week weeks CBT topic I thought it would be super helpful to discuss the art of listening. It may seem like and everyday thing and not of a lot of importance but in fact actively listening to people is one of the most powerful ways to show someone we care. Here are some tips on how to be an effective listener and build those healthy relationships.
Seven Keys to Active Listening
1. Be Attentive 2. Ask open-ended questions 3. Ask probing questions but don't interrogate 4. Request clarification 5. Paraphrase 6. Be attuned to and reflect feelings 7. Summarize Really listening to someone can also be tough. Perhaps due to our hectic western culture, maybe because of past hurts, or perhaps because a lot of us have a lot on our minds, but you know the saying two heads are always better than one? Well, a meaningful conversation can impact our lives in incredible ways and for a long time to come. I think especially now during this global pandemic making the most of our relationships is extremely important and I can't think of a better way to show our love than by carefully listening to what people are actually saying.
Here are some bad habits that negatively impact our ability to really listen to people. Whether we are talking about people close to us or casual encounters, we need to treat people with respect and carry ourselves with integrity, actively listening is a simple way we can do both. Go slow, be present and take a good listen. I'd even say this simple discipline has the power to change the world. Barriers and Bad Listening Habits 1. Being distracted by external factors 2. Listening to more than one voice at a time (us and them) 3. Allowing prejudices and or preferences to undermine the learning process 4. Finding the communicator attractive and over-connecting with them 5. Finding the communicator un-attractive and dis-connecting with them 6. Driven more by being right than listening, hearing and understanding 7. Over-identifying with an idea instead of trying it on for size 8. Sympathizing with someone instead of empathizing with them 9. Trying to remember information instead of applying it to self 10. Having preconceived ideas or expectations on what you will hear 11. Listening more to what might be being said instead of accurately listening to what is actually being said So another powerful subject! I hope you have been enjoying these little discussions. This was week five and we have one more to go. Next week we'll be talking about Limiting Beliefs. It's sure to be another great topic, hope you stay tuned! Speaking of staying tuned this Thursday's food demo will be something cold and sweet, perfect for all that warm weather to come!
Take good care and have a great week! Sarah